Why it Took me so Long to Realize that I’m Actually a Lesbian

Barbie and Ken. Tarzan and Jane. I mean, even the Grinch had a hetero love story with Martha Mae Whovier. Media representation and my personal socialization impacted me to believe that I would also have a hetero love story. Turns out, I don’t love being hetero at all. Quite the opposite, in fact. But we […]

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Crop Top Hesitation

It’s time to embrace our bodies. I’ve been seeing so many beautiful people embracing and loving their bodies in whatever clothes they want. It’s thrilling to see, and I want to feel the same way too. So, I decided to buy a couple of crop tops for myself. Before you ask, why are you making […]

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Know Thy Tropes

Let’s talk about tropes. We love them. We hate them. Whether the author sticks to them or subverts them, they are the foundation of every bestseller. Tropes are common (potentially cliche) plot or rhetorical devices in books or television. Examples include, but are not limited to, enemies to lovers, the chosen one, girl/boy next door, […]

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May The Fourth Be With You!

May the Fourth be with You! Happy Star Wars Day, friends. What better way to celebrate than a post about why I am a Star Wars fan. There are two types of Star Wars fans; one is immersed in the cinematic world created by George Lucas, and the other is immersed in the world of […]

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Independent Bookstores Have Always Been There For Me

Independent bookstores have always been there for me, whether I’m busy or not. When the first lockdown started, I was one of the lucky people who could stay home and did so for over two months. My biggest work and personal commitments stopped virtually overnight and, like for everyone else, that sudden shift was bizarre […]

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A Not-So-Friendly Guide to Group Photos

So I was zoomin’ with some friends the other night, and I wanted to take a picture to prove to the world that I still have friends (I swear I do). I asked them to smile, snapped the picture, then promptly uploaded it to my Insta story, tagging each of my friends. As they each […]

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Body Positive TikTok Trends

I’ve seen a new body-positive trend on TikTok that goes along with a Katy Perry song, “I Kissed A Girl.” The videos feature people showing off their “normal” bodies. Anything from blemishes, stretch marks, tummies, thighs, and everything that is usually excluded from the social media narrative. I was in awe of the beautiful people […]

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Hot Girl Summer: Here We Come

Spring is in the air, and besides triggering my allergies, it’s the time of year we start dusting off our shorts and tank tops and all our body insecurities. We’ve been sitting cozy in crewnecks and baggy knits all winter, but with the warm weather comes tighter and more revealing clothing that’s much more difficult […]

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Writing Slumps Suck

Mondays. They hold the promise to have an excellent, refreshing, and motivating day. I thought I had all the cards aligned to have such a day. Alas, I was wrong. I had a “free day off” from work today, and it started off promising. I had a scheduled massage, ate a healthy breakfast, and went […]

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A Year Later: Still Pessimistic But Here For The Adventure

I think I jinxed 2020. Almost exactly one year ago, I wrote Unconscious Pessimism, where I talked about how, because of a really fantastic start to 2020, I had this core belief that things were going to go sideways to balance the scales. I ended that blog with: “I’m sure the rest of the decade […]

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